Parents Influence on Early child development
Parents Influence on Early child development
In your concern for your child, you can let his lack of normal vision so dominate your thinking that you forget he is, first of all, a child and will have the same needs, reactions, and desires that any baby has.
Since his basic needs are the same as those of any baby, it is important for you to know about child growth and development. Obtain a good book on this subject, talk with your doctor, turn to a child care agency for information. Even if you have older children, you may want and need to refresh your memory about numerous stages of development and how to handle certain situations.
Of course, no two children progress at exactly the same rate.
There will be spurts and delays in the growth and development pattern. Each child makes progress at his own speed, but you can learn about the progressive pattern he will follow and the approximate stage at which children usually begin to do certain things.
You then will be better able to help your child in his development. You should not be overly concerned if he does not start a new stage at a given time, but you will begin to observe signs of his readiness for the new experience and be prepared to help him with it.
One of the things you must bear in mind from the very beginning is that your honest deep down feelings about your child will have great influence on his development.
Even a small infant senses his parents’ true feelings and attitudes toward him. This is why you must work through your feelings promptly and honestly and convince yourself about his potential for success. From the start, he will sense your genuine feelings and try to live up to what you expect from him. As he grows and develops, he, just as any other child, is going to try to do what you want him to do and be what you expect of him. If you do not feel he has, or will have any real ability or worth, you cannot expect him to think that he amounts to anything and can succeed.
If you are confident that in spite of his visual loss, he can learn and progress, he will strive to do this. Do not lose confidence in your child through your own faltering hope or remarks and suggestions of even well-intentioned family and friends who may not be well enough informed to be of help.
When you have learned enough about successful blind and partially seeing people to gain a respect for them and their ability to hold their own in the seeing world, you will relax about the opportunities open for your child. Your feelings will have a great influence on his opinion of himself. You must have such positive attitudes about him that you will not think or speak of him in a belittling way (“This poor child.”). You must encourage him to exert himself to do all that he can, to have honest pride in his achievements, and accept praise modestly when it is deserved, but not expect it when he has not done his best.
Even as a tiny baby, your child is going to react to your love and attention or lack of it. Basically, all children need to feel loved and have a sense of belonging to the family group. They also need to become aware of themselves and learn the ways in which they fit into the family life. Give your child kind but firm control from the start.
Make sure that you establish regular habits for him and are consistent in dealing with him. Affection, fairness in demands made upon him, firmness in control, and a chance to learn about the world in which he lives gives your child a sense of security and makes him know you love him.
While your child is young, he will not be aware that others see differently, so he will be as content as any other baby. He will not feel that he is missing anything. By the time he is old enough to know that he has a visual loss, you can have helped him grow to be a happy child who is able to do things independently and not be upset over the fact that he does not see as others do.
While he is quite young begin speaking in a matter of fact way about the differences in the way he and normally seeing people manage so he will be aware, from an early age, that all people are not alike and that some see more than he does. Let him know that he needs to do some things in a way others do not.
He needs to know that by using his other senses to advantage he can do given tasks as well, and often better, than his normally seeing friends who have not learned how to use hearing, feeling, and smelling and depend so much on what they see that they do not try to remember things from one time to the next.
It is inevitable that there will be times when you and he encounter well meaning people relatives, friends, and strangers who will express pity or sympathy over the child’s lack of good vision.
There is hardly a chance that you will not have strong reaction against this and be concerned over what it may do to your child. Of course, when possible, you will circumvent experiences of this kind. When they do occur, you can calmly and politely change the subject promptly.
Do not dwell on the incident later. Know that you have prepared your child so that he is not concerned as much as you are, if at all.
When a child is partially seeing and can use his vision for a number of things, it is easy to be misled and feel that he is competent to see the way he would if he had no visual loss. Do not fall into the trap of thinking that he has no problem.
Just as the child without sight, he needs to learn to use all of his senses and find ways to compensate for his lack of normal vision. He is going to need to develop many techniques to manage and know when to use and not use sight.
His problems will be far greater than those of the blind child who need not make a decision as to when to use his other senses and when to depend upon his sight. There will be so many factors that will influence how well he sees at a given time, they will be confusing to him and to all who work with him. Lighting, physical condition, and emotional state are only a few of the things that can affect his ability to see. His vision may fluctuate so that he can perform a visual task well at one time and later fail miserably in trying to repeat it.
This can cause him to have great insecurity and sometimes feelings of inferiority. You too may feel insecure since you cannot tell when his vision will function well. He is going to need your patience and encouragement as he learns how to manage.
At first, your baby’s environment is going to be limited to what he can hear, feel, and taste if he has no sight and, to a great degree, even if he has some. You, therefore, need to establish a warm and loving relationship with him that he can depend upon at all times.
Make a practice of speaking to him before you touch him, or start to pick him up so he will not be startled. Give him an extra amount of cuddling, and if you do not nurse him, hold him while he has his bottle so that he will feel your love and attention. He is going to need more physical contact than he would if he could see normally to watch you move about as you work and see your smile from across the room.
To compensate for this, you can give him an extra pat as you pass by him and talk to him while you are busy with your tasks. Be careful, however, not to over indulge him so that he becomes too demanding. You do not want to spoil him so much that he will not progress normally and naturally.
When he is quite young, you may feel that he is not responding to you as much as he should. Remember, he is not seeing your expression or movements the way he would if his vision were normal. He is going to need to learn to recognize you by the sound of your voice, your footstep, and your touch.
This is another reason you will need to give him extra attention. Pick him up and carry him into another room as you go to it to work. Even when he is too young to understand what you say, tell him about what you are doing and where you and he are going.
Carry on a conversation with him the way many people do with babies. “Did you hear the door bell? We will go see who is there.” “It is time to fix your lunch. Come to the kitchen with me.” “Hear the water running?
I just turned it on to rinse out the wash basin. That loud noise is the toilet flushing.” Before you realize it, you have made a start at helping him learn about his environment and how to feel at home in it. With your help he begins to acquire information that normal seeing children pick up incidentally through observation.
Parents Influence on Early child development Article Source : This article courtesy should goes to Guide for parents of preschool visually handicapped childrens by Dorothy Bryan.