Instinctive Parental Behavior
Instinctive Parental Behavior
In marked contrast to the more or less vicious non-social instinctive tendencies arises the tendency to tender, protective behavior toward the helpless. It is known as instinctive parental behavior and though it is most markedly manifested in the relations of parents to their children, the responses may arise in the very young child toward any helpless or beloved person, pet or toy. The tendency is not limited to girls by any means, for the crudest, most pugnacious boy may sometimes react most generously tender when the occasion stivalates such a response.
The ring leader in a group of boys who derive a great deal of pleasure from tantalizing and actually hurting a smaller boy is the first one to throw his arms protectively around the little chap and soothingly dry his tears when the younger child
finally admits his helplessness. Since it is the only innate tendency with which the emotions of tenderness and sympathy are associated, exercise and cultivation of the responses which thus naturally arise, will make a definite contribution to social progress. This tendency to protect and help the helpless is the source of altruism and philanthropic endeavor.
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topic : MATING
The mating or sex instinct is one of the strongest original tendencies of man and is the foundation of society’s greatest institution–the home. It is often confused with that of parental behavior though they are quite distinct and may be present in very different degrees of development in the same person. Because of the ban formerly placed upon open and free discussion of matters pertaining to sex, there is much disagreement on many outstanding points. Some writers believe that there are evidences of the presence of the sex instinct at birth, while others believe that its appear.with physical maturity of adolescence.
Writers have expressed the opinion that maturity occurs on the average before adolescence, and that the appearance of the sex instinct does not depend upon physical signs which accompany maturity. By some it is believed that the beginning of the development of the sex instinct occurs before a child is eight years old and continues though not constantly to increawe in strength until maturity. Norsworthy and Whitley give two processes of development which combined make up the “sex impulse.” “The first set of processes go on in the physical realm wholly,and consist of the various sensations, nerve disturbances, reflexes, secretions and the like, which together are called the phenomena of detumescence.
The second set are in the psychic realm, and include the various attractions, fallings in love and kindred emotions, also the sentiments of disgust, shame and modesty which together make the phenomena of concentration. In the normal adult the two sets of impulses are coordinated and synchronized; but during the long development of childhood and early adolescence either set may occur independently of the other.”
Up to about eight years of age, there are experienced no “contrectation impulses” and what “detumescence processes” which may occur are not accompanied by marked sex consciousness or localization of sensations.
To insure normal and natural development of the instinct, care needs to be given even during the earliest years that no physical or psychical element enters to overstimulate its growth or to debauch the wholesome beauty of sexual matters. The first questions pertaining to sex and reproduction should be answered directly, simply and honestly so that sex is from the start approached openly and without excitement.
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Topic : Gregariousness
Gregariousness is another specifically social instinct, for it is the impulse to seek the company of other people. G. Stanley Hall says that “no creature is so gregarious as man.”
To be alone for any length of time is to the normal person distinctly unpleasant. Even the baby protests violently to being shut away alone in a room and responds with evidences of satisfaction and comfort when reinstated as a member of the group.
At first the child shows a preference for adult companionship, but by the time he is three years old desires companions of his own age. It is important that every child have associates who are near his own age in order that the instinct may develop naturally and the child may learn to cooperate, give and take, and live in harmony with other people.
Later, at about nine years of age, the tendency takes on a new turn which is called the “gang instinct,” or the desire to belong to a specific group, participate in its activities and loyally defend its ideals.
The instinct is the foundation of much of social progress but “the administrative authorities have shown of late years a disposition to encourage in every possible way the gregarious tendency. On the slightest occasion they organize some show which shall draw huge crowds, many thousands of people from their work to spend the day in worse than useless idleness, confirming their already over-developed gregarious instincts. There can be no doubt that the excessive indulgence of this impulse is one of the greatest demoralizing factors of the present time.”
Instinctive Parental Behavior Article Source ; The Psycology of preschool child Submitted by Iris Coldwell Frampton